Sorry guys, we’re Celebrating MGM this Monday!

“You can’t wear a tank top two days in a row, and you can only wear your hair in a ponytail once a week. Oh, and we only wear jeans or track pants on Fridays. Now, if you break any of these rules, you can’t sit with us at lunch.” -Gretchen Wieners

Happy Mean Girls Monday! In celebration of this auspicious occasion, I want you to think back to the first time you watched this amazing teen chic flick. I remember watching this movie and how much I couldn’t wait to get to school the next day and tell my friends about it.

Recently, I decided to watch this movie again and here’s what I got from watching it (as an adult who can quote this entire movie).

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  1. Learn to roll with the punches: Life is full of unfortunate events, it’s up to you to go with it and continue to live or you can cry your eyes out and quit. In this case channel your inner Regina George. She was the goddess of not caring about other thought of her. Did your twist out not turn out right and you only have about 15 minutes left until you have to leave for work. Who cares, transform those wet curls into a cute up do or puff and beat your face. Life zip, blackgirlmagic 1 point.

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2. Exactly what he said!

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3. Remember, no matter how old your mom gets, she’s going to want to barrow a sweater or want to know what’s “hip.” Just keep her in the loop and it’s a little less embarrassing. Mom’s are great, everyone want’s a “cool” mom.

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4. Chase the things you want in life. Your dreams won’t become realities if all you do is dream about them.

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5. Accept that you’re perfectly flawed. We were created with a sense of uniqueness. Love what makes you different. You can complain everyday but nothing is going to change. Embrace yourself and others will embrace you too.

As a tween, mean girls was the best for all the wrong reasons. Every girl wanted to rule their school but with the wrong attitude. Watching this movie as an adult is just as funny, but mainly because you realize that either you were these girls, you hated these girls or you wanted to be these girls. What ever category you fall under, just remember on Wednesday we were pink!

 

 

#MotivationMonday: Advice to The Freshmen Class of 2020

As time is winding down and I begin my final semester of undergrad at Western Michigan University tomorrow, I’m reminiscing on the past 4 years of my life. I have no regrets; however, if I could do it all over, here’s what I’d do differently:

 

1. Meet more people!

Though I can be an extrovert at times, I am an introvert for the most part. I’m pretty quiet and stay to myself. Meeting new people and making friends has never been my forte. I have met some amazing people and even met my best friend, Jade, in college. But I wonder about all the possible friendships I have missed out on because of my introverted behavior. I feel like I didn’t take full advantage of being around 25,000 people of different cultures, backgrounds, beliefs, etc. If I were more open, who knows how many more lasting friendships and connections I could have made.

2. Make time for fun!

I’m a very busy person, and always on the go. I have a detailed schedule outlined for each day. If it’s not on the schedule, I don’t partake in it. Though that can be a good thing, sometimes I wish I could just go with the flow. There have been so many missed opportunities of making unforgettable memories because I was just so busy all the time, whether it be going out, taking a trip, or just simply spending time with my friends. I’m always so stuck on a schedule that sometimes I forget that it’s okay to have fun, take a break, and make time for yourself! Maybe if I did more of that, I wouldn’t have been constantly stressed out or had mental breakdowns every other day.

3. Realize that your mental health is more important than an “A.”

I’m not the type of person that stresses out about getting all A’s. What I get is what I get, as long as I pass the class and tried my absolute best! But still, I stress out about grades just like every other college student, sometimes to the point where I break myself down mentally, physically, and emotionally. Yes, grades matter. Or do they? I mean, all the interviews I’ve had so far for post-college jobs have NOT asked for my transcripts or my GPA. They just want to know if I can perform the tasks needed to be a good employee. They don’t care if I got an A in Film Communication! They just don’t. I guess the situation is different if you’re trying to get into law, medical, or grad school in general and you need a certain GPA to get admitted. But still, sometimes I believe that I overstressed about grades way too much when in reality at the end of the day, as long as I pass, I’m good!

4. Ask for help.

Asking for help has always been a challenge for me. I’m definitely a do-it-yourself type of person. I like to figure things out on my own and I will literally sit for hours – and sometimes days – trying to figure out something before I ask for help. Three words: Don’t do that. You’ll save yourself a whole lot of time and trouble if you just get help. College is filled with numerous resources. Use them! You’re paying for it, so you might as well. Whether it be going to tutoring, the counseling and wellness center, or just talking to your friends about a hard day. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. College is already hard. Don’t make it any harder.

5. Don’t try to do everything unless you want to kill yourself.

I don’t know what it is about college, but if you were one of those overachievers in high school that did everything and was the president of every club (like me) and you try to do that in college, you will die. Point blank period. Trust me, I know. I thought I could be a college athlete, take a full load of classes, work, and be in 10 student organizations. LOL. I learned that that’s impossible. Now as a 5th year senior, I’m a lot more focused and have narrowed down my concentration on a few things that matter to me the most instead of a bunch of things I took even the slightest interest in.

6. If you feel like you’re not going to pass a class, drop it.

Personally, I hate giving up on anything. So dropping a class that I was struggling with was tough. However, I learned the hard way that if you honestly think you’re not going to pass, drop it. Had I just done that instead of being overly optimistic about classes I knew I probably wouldn’t pass, I probably wouldn’t have failed 3 classes throughout my time in college. Failing a class SUCKS. So if you can drop a class, do it. If it’s a required class, figure something out to ensure you pass or just drop it and take it a different semester. Dropping a class can be challenging, especially if you’ve done the work and already paid for the $200 book, but it’s better than failing.

7. Don’t conform to be included in the norm.

I always get teased and made fun of because I’m not a “real” college student since I don’t partake in what “normal” college students fill their life with (according to society and millennials’ expectations and definition of college): drinking, partying, and sex. But it’s not college if you don’t do those things, right? WRONG! I tired the whole party life and honestly, it’s just not for me and something I don’t really enjoy partaking in. I go out from time to time with friends, but that’s about it. I’ve probably been to like 5 parties throughout the course of my college career. And I’m perfectly fine with that! Not a heavy drinker. And honestly, hooking up with random people is gross, sorry not sorry. Don’t ever make or force yourself to like something or do something just because everyone else does. Be true to yourself.

8. Time flies, don’t rush it.

The transition from high school to college was rough for me, but with time, things got easier. Still, I remember being a freshman and could not wait to graduate! I would pray every day, “Lord, I need you to speed up time about 3 notches because I can’t do this.” Now, I’m about to graduate in 4 months. Like, what?! I’m just like, man…the best and worst years of my life are about to be over and it’s so bittersweet. I’m not going to miss college not one bit, but I am going to miss the experiences I’ve had and the friends I’ve made. It was one hell of a ride, and I glad I made it through.

 

So yeah, no regrets, just lessons learned! To the class of 2020, I hope this advice helps you in any way! It sure would have helped me.

The Advice Every College Freshmen Needs to Hear

By Tabinda Sial

I will be going into my junior year at Michigan State University this upcoming fall and there are so many incoming freshmen that constantly asks me questions about MSU. I realized I found the answers to those questions through my own college experience. No one gives you a book on “How to Survive College” when you first get there, you sort of have to just experience college for yourself to adjust to this new world of freedom. But there are a few tips I would give to freshmen going to college in the fall because they will definitely help at some point!

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#MotivationMonday: Changing Your Perspective During Challenging Times

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Life can be pretty difficult, stressful, unbearable, and other sulky adjectives that make it hard to get out of bed in the morning. Though lying in bed Netflix and Chilling by yourself with your chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream to mask the pains of life may sound like a great (and quite delicious, if I might add) idea, there’s an even better solution for getting through those tough times that life loves to throw at us.

So, what’s the solution? Change your perspective.

It’s the challenging times in our life that makes us stronger, wiser, and better than when we were before. The hard times that we all go through are happening for us, not to us. The challenges that you encounter are on your path for a reason. Use these moments to challenge yourself and explore these phases of your life to analyze what’s going on, why it’s going on, and what you can learn from it.

You are not the victim of your struggles. You are the beneficiary. So put that ice cream away, log out of Netflix, and tackle the obstacles you may be going through like the warrior that you are. We only get one life, and it’s important that we live it to the fullest through the good times, and the challenging times, too.

The moment you change your perspective, that certain obstacle is no longer an obstacle. Instead, it becomes an opportunity for growth.