Ladies, Sweetest Day is swiftly approaching and I’m sure we all want to get the love of our life together on this amazing day to show our appreciation. Why not do it the right way, their way and not ours? Here I have 10 tips on the do’s and don’ts to make this holiday one to remember for the special someone in our lives:
What kind of world do we live in? Who established these social norms? Why has our culture manifested itself in the way that it has?
So many questions, so very little answers…
As a female in today’s society it’s not rare to get barked at by males, be reduced to the color pants we’re wearing at the current moment, or even be thought of as sexual objects. Unfortunately this is a normality for so many.
Sure, some may argue that if females didn’t wear tight skirts or revealing blouses or the fact that they curled their hair and put on makeup, they wouldn’t get treated as they do. But…why does a woman’s attire and physical appearance represent her sexual standing? Too often today do women find themselves in a position that they couldn’t or shouldn’t have imagined that they’d be in. For these reasons, it’s people like Amber Rose that have started the “Slut Walk”, the no-shaming protest to end the rape culture and the dehumanization of women. If a woman is a bit more promiscuous than that of a nun, she’s every name in the book. The cruelty and slander is horrendous.
To make matters worse, our potential president-unfortunately, Donald Trump, has been interviewed, quoted, and filmed one to many times about his opinion on the female. Some of his many claims are that women are a distraction; their menstrual cycles, pregnancy, and emotional mindsets are far too chaotic, inconvenient and disturbing much less to be considered in any place of power or as president of the United States, referencing Hilary Clinton.
We know the setup, “what’s your name, what’s your sign, you got a man” etc. a timeless opener for males to entice a woman, but if theres a hint of sass given or an attitude underway we’re automatically the worst things walking this Earth. Sure, being dry or straight to the point may not be the nicest thing to do, but if i’m simply just not interested or don’t want to be bothered why does that make me any less of a person. At a social event, a female was shot, SHOT, in her chest because she declined to give a man her phone number. Though she’s doing alright, it was such an unnecessary measure taken. It’s unclear of how nicely or rudely she may have declined his request, but why would that even be a factor? Why does a woman need to be a gentle lamb just to preserve her life in these types of occurrences???
It sort of reminds me of the senseless killings by the police officers. A man selling CD’s though thought to be suspicious or his activity even illegal, it doesn’t justify his death.He was shot several times at close range while being held down by other police officers. If you’ve seen some of the comments of the videos that have gone viral you’d see some of thie ignorant nonsense people have posted. “If he wasn’t selling CD’s he wouldn’t have been shot, If he didn’t resist, if he didn’t talk back, if he didn’t stand there, if he didn’t blink, if he didn’t smile, if he wasn’t black….” so many hateful, blood-boiling statements that bring me back to the thought that no one deserves the treatment that society bestowes upon them. Whether it be a woman with tight fitting clothing that drank too much and thus gang raped or an innocent man hustling to feed his family shot and killed, there are no justifications for their resulting consequences.
On a Saturday night out with the girls, all dolled up, men approach you and no matter how nice or rude you try to be it’s like they don’t get it. On a particular occasion, a man bumped into a young woman and was very touchy as he apologized, she requested that he not touch her, and he turned into another person aside from the one that was just trying to apologize so affectionately. “You must think you’re hot S***, you think you’re bad, well you’re not you ugly little b****, that’s why you…”, the slurs, profanity, and insults continued as he walked away. When these types of things happen it makes me wonder if it’s even safe to go out anymore. Who knows what could happen if a male approaches a female now of days.
Males are using whatever tactics they can just to save face and their pride. Chloroform cloths are being heavily used on women, along with date rape drugs- Rohypnol or Roofie, as well as tazers, guns, and other weapons. It wouldn’t be shocking to know that women actually feel some sense of obligation to comply with men and their requests no matter the circumstance just to maintain their safety. To no surprise, campus crimes have increased. A couple of girls walking back to their dorms from the library meeting with their study group, and a male thinks that’s the perfect time to take advantage of the situation. As women, we’re made to feel so small, helpless, weak, and insecure that we need to carry our purse pistols, a shank, mace…and not that that’s a bad idea at all, but why has society made us feel so fearful that we need to utilize these strategies just to make it back home safely?
Recently, well-known, socialite, Kim Kardashian was tied up with taped mouth and blindfold and robbed by two men dressed as police officers while in Paris for fashion week. Kanye West happened to be having a concert in the city that week and when he heard of the news he immediately canceled the show and went to be with her. People were outraged by the cancelation and took it out on Mrs. West herself. People trolled, made accusations, and called Kim all sorts of names and legitimizing the reason she was robbed claiming that she shouldn’t have “all that money” anyway. Love, like, hate, or indifferent, no one should be made to feel so less than that anything they have can be taken rather it be physical objects or other things. This scenario isn’t too far off from what happens to women everyday.
This isn’t a rant for “men haters”, this isn’t a “women rule the world”-Beyonce combo, this isn’t to possey up and start a mob to start killing them off, this is to establish knowledge about what’s going on, in 2016 where a female can’t be too sure about her life’s state when a man approaches her. It’s all too surreal that our grandmothers were treated like queens when they were young. Given flowers, dated gentlemen who thought they were lucky to have even have known the lady…times have definitely changed and not for better. As women, we definitely need to be aware of our surroundings, not caught up with capturing the “right light” while trying to take a selfie or other matters. It’s time to get serious. There are hotlines and helpful websites available. Talk to your mother, sister, grandmother, and other women. Talk to the men in your life too. Life is too precious and much to short to have it conflicted due to pride-hurt males.
Stay safe! Stay in the know!
VOTE!!! I can’t stress this enough, vote! If we don’t get out there and vote, this country will be more jacked up than what it is today. I solute Barack Obama to the fullest because he has done more than a job well done but this country will not continue to move in the right direct if Donald Trump is elected. Let’s be serious, how do you even go from reality TV to politician with no real background in politics. That’s just like me running for president. Even though I have a degree in Journalism with a minor in Political Science I still wouldn’t be able to take my own self serious trying to run an entire country. It even baffles me that this is the joker the Republican Party chose as their presidential candidate. Never in my 22 years of life have I heard so many republicans second guess their own candidate until now, that should even be an alarm for us all to get out and vote.
“You can’t wear a tank top two days in a row, and you can only wear your hair in a ponytail once a week. Oh, and we only wear jeans or track pants on Fridays. Now, if you break any of these rules, you can’t sit with us at lunch.” -Gretchen Wieners
Happy Mean Girls Monday! In celebration of this auspicious occasion, I want you to think back to the first time you watched this amazing teen chic flick. I remember watching this movie and how much I couldn’t wait to get to school the next day and tell my friends about it.
Recently, I decided to watch this movie again and here’s what I got from watching it (as an adult who can quote this entire movie).
- Learn to roll with the punches: Life is full of unfortunate events, it’s up to you to go with it and continue to live or you can cry your eyes out and quit. In this case channel your inner Regina George. She was the goddess of not caring about other thought of her. Did your twist out not turn out right and you only have about 15 minutes left until you have to leave for work. Who cares, transform those wet curls into a cute up do or puff and beat your face. Life zip, blackgirlmagic 1 point.
2. Exactly what he said!
3. Remember, no matter how old your mom gets, she’s going to want to barrow a sweater or want to know what’s “hip.” Just keep her in the loop and it’s a little less embarrassing. Mom’s are great, everyone want’s a “cool” mom.
4. Chase the things you want in life. Your dreams won’t become realities if all you do is dream about them.
5. Accept that you’re perfectly flawed. We were created with a sense of uniqueness. Love what makes you different. You can complain everyday but nothing is going to change. Embrace yourself and others will embrace you too.
As a tween, mean girls was the best for all the wrong reasons. Every girl wanted to rule their school but with the wrong attitude. Watching this movie as an adult is just as funny, but mainly because you realize that either you were these girls, you hated these girls or you wanted to be these girls. What ever category you fall under, just remember on Wednesday we were pink!
DIYs and YouTube tutorials have become the go-to guru for all things. From interior decorating, maintenance on vehicles, and beauty needs; there’s a video for everything. Speaking of beauty…sometimes we get so lost in the products and the names and the “skin care routines” that some of our favorite YouTubers utilize that we might do more harm than good.
Did you know, that you should never exfoliate dirty skin?! There are thousands of exfoliant products that are advertised to us, that tell us that we NEED to exfoliate regularly to keep the dead skin to a minimum, but… if you’re face isn’t clean then it makes zero sense to exfoliate. The granulates in the exfoliants actually press the dirt deeper into the skin, creating dark areas, black heads, and clogged pores. We think that we’re cleaning but we’re not. And clean doesn’t just mean splashed with water or lathered with bar soap… An exfoliant is not the same thing as a cleanser and should only be used once a week, give or take the type of skin you may have while cleansers should be used twice a day essentially. Skin types are very important to recognize. From oily, to dry to normal to a combination of the sorts, this recognition helps you to choose products that will work along with your skin rather than against.
Rule of thumb, if you do nothing else… Cleanse. Tone. Moisturize. Keys that lead to great, clear, firm, supple skin! #staywoke
“Money doesn’t grow on trees”, we all know that, but pinching pennies could lead to bacteria and even fungus growing in your makeup products. Mascara only has a utilization life of about three months. As air and other matter seeps into the mascara container with each use, it makes it more susceptible for those growths and using the product after its expiration date can cause pink eye, a stye, or other problems. Not washing your makeup brushes is also a dead shot to bacteria build up. Foundation, concealer, bronzers, and other makeup generally only have a “safe” life of about six months to a year, after that it would be a good idea to replace those products.
One YouTuber who’s caught my eye with her makeup handy tricks and tips is Michelle Phan. She’s gained populairty over the years allowing her to develop her own website, michellephan.com.While watching just a few of her vids, she’s shown me that you don’t need expensive products to make those makeup tutorials come to life. That’s right! Aside from E.L.F and NYX products being just a couple of the more affordable and quality brands, some of your basic house hold items can be utilized for a lot of beauty tasks. For example, cleaning makeup brushes is a “major key” and sometimes getting that foundation out of those bristles is a stubborn job but a 2:1 ratio of Dawn dish soap and Extra Virgin Olive Oil is a super fast and easy way to clean those brushes compared to purchasing a basic solution. Most makeup products can be made right at home with just a few simple ingredients, petroleum jelly or moisturizer, eye shadow or other powder, and an essential oil. This combination of ingredients can be used for a few things like a lipstick or gloss, blush, amplified eye shadows, and even a high light or contour cream.
There may be tutorials and guidelines all over the web that you can look up, but there’s no law against cutting a few corners or saving a buck. Check out some DIY’s and get creative!!!
Considering I haven’t been to a concert since, B2K was a thing. Going to the St. Pablo
Tour was another great experience for 2016. I was able to see why people pay the big bucks for the closer seats, although my seats were just as great. The concert took place in the Van Andel Arena in Grand Rapids, MI., where the streets flooded with people from all over West Michigan to experience Mr. West and his hovering stage.
Kanye hit the platform at 9:21p.m., and the crowd went crazy. I’ll be honest, I enjoy Kanye as an artist and producer, but I really wasn’t a die hard fan–until now. The energy in that arena was amazing, I enjoyed every bit of it.
He performed several hits like, Jesus Walks, FourFive Seconds, Can’t Tell Me Nothing and several songs from Life of Pablo, obviously. Opening with Father Stretch My Hands.
As I said before, I hadn’t been to a concert since watching Omarion glide across the stage at Joe Louis Arena, or maybe it was Lloyd…I’m not sure, but it has been a while. Of course, me being “Jill the camera lady” I wanted to capture so many great moments, for this post specifically. I had my phone out the entire time, recording and taking pictures.
I joked about how the set up and lighting made me feel like I was standing in the middle of Zion in the Matrix movie, because that’s exactly how it felt. The yellow lights gave it a real ambient touch. Listening to the crowd sing all the lyrics as if they were on stage performing. Needless-to-say, I had a ball and I need to learn more Yeezy songs new and old.
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I met Sydney when we had Digital Video Production: Nonfiction together last Fall. Her spunk, poise, and confidence was very evident. She definitely stood out, and I instantly knew that I needed to get acquainted with her because she’s definitely going to be somebody and do amazing things (more than she already has!).
Sydney Bowden was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan. Or as Bowden says, “Motown…Home where the Pimps and Players are born.”
I laughed at that one. That’s one of Bowden’s many attributes. Smart, beautiful, and witty!
Bowden received her Bachelor of Arts in Film, Video, Media Studies with a minor in Fashion Merchandising and Design from Western Michigan University, class of 2016.
When she’s not jamming out to her favorite motivational songs “Grown Woman” by Beyoncé and “When Jesus Says Yes” by Michelle, she is working within Corporate America for a multi-billion-dollar property restoration company. Outside of that, she is the Founder and President of The Social B., L.L.C., a social entertainment production company.
Bowden’s life mission is “to reinvent digital media by doing away with the negative connotations and stereotypes held within media. In doing so, I have developed the mission of my company to showcase the talents and hard work of young entrepreneurs, artists, and awesome everyday individuals while empowering them to become leaders within the communities they serve.”
I resonate with this message so much. From the inspiring words of Ava DuVernay, “if your dreams only include yourself, they’re not big enough.” I love how Bowden wants to showcase the talents and hard work of others and encourage them to be leaders in their communities. We need more people with life missions that include showcasing the best in others and their stories.
Bowden’s motivational words to other women of color are, “Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game. Failure is beautiful to endure and once you accept it and use it as motivation towards a successful future, you will begin to reap the benefits. Just remember to feed your faith, and your fears will starve to death.”
Bowden’s greatest accomplishments thus far are graduating in four years at the age of 21 as the sole proprietor of her own business. “This is only the beginning towards a very bright, rewarding, and successful future,” she says.
Absolutely! I believe in the Law of Attraction. When you speak positivity into your life, you will have positive results and life experiences. So far, Bowden has been a living testimony of that!
Bowden encourages others to continue to visit The Social B. and please, please, please share our wonderful stories with your family and friends!
Be honest. Be humble. Be you. Everyone should aspire to live within those words, just as you do, Sydney. Keep shining! Continue to chase your dreams and encourage other women of color to be unstoppable.
Fall is here and the world has never been busier. Students are back to school, Parents are working double time but the days are getting shorter. It’s almost as if we run out of time during the autumn season. Here are a few tips on how to make the most of your work days with you as a focus.
Being a student is hard work, whether you are in high school or college, there never seems to be enough time for you no matter how many planners you have. “Students are working an average of 30 hours a week, Georgetown researchers found. However, about 25 percent of working students are simultaneously employed full-time and enrolled in college full-time.” Considering this study was done in 2015, I’m sure that number has increased since then.
If this is you…KEEP READING.
“Having great time management” is something that has been preached to you since about 11th grade. Getting a planner and writing down everything you have to do for that week and sticking to that to-do list. Though this tactic is great, you’re still in shallow waters in the sea of time management. Let’s take this habit a step further. What in your to-do list is major priority?
These are the task that have to get done ASAP. They usually have a time stamp on them. This can include papers, responding to emails, scheduling appointments etc. Contrary to popular belief, not all task have to get done at that very moment. Find out what is important and needs most of your attention, tackle that first.
Learning how to allocate your free time wisely is the most important skill for managing time. Outside of work and class, what other activities do you have listed that are worth your time? For example, when I was attending Western Michigan University, I purposely scheduled my classes for Tuesday and Thursdays only. That way Monday, Wednesday and Friday were days for work and anything else I wanted to do. The weekends were days I would do homework and things I personally enjoyed. Moments where I had free time, I made sure I allocated it to something I would be the primary beneficiary.
Most of the time, I took naps but you get the point. Free time shouldn’t be completely spent doing things like studying. Mental health should always be your number one priority.
When do you work best? Are you a rooster or a night owl? Once you find out when you do the best work, you’ll be able to work more effectively and efficiently. Time management is important but never forget to work in a way that’s best for you.
By: Sydney B.
The Identify Your Dream Foundation is transforming tragedy into strategy as they aid our youth to overcome the loss of a parent. It is the goal of the organization to empower children to continue dreaming, so that they will find the strength, hope, and power to heal!
“It’s needed! It’s a desperate need for kids to really express themselves in a healthy manner. Being able to process that grief as a kid is important,” says Deleah Samuel-Sharp, Executive Director of IDYD.
The foundation was founded by Deleah Samuel-Sharp, following the tragic loss of her brother, Dean who was violently killed, in 1996 in Pontiac, Michigan. At the time of his death, he was 22-years-old and a soon-to-be father. Deleah watched as her nephew grew up without having his father alive in his life, and developed the understanding that not only was there a void in her life, but in his as well as a fatherless child.
“We need to get to them. Statistics show that an early exposure to violence will create this cycle where the same people that were exposed to violence at an early age may soon become offenders as well.”
Identify Your Dream grants children, who have suffered a loss of their parents to violence, the opportunity to find their healthy outlet. The mentors of this organization work together with the children and their families of these children to ensure them that there are other kids who too have lost their parents as well.
The foundation offers in-home programs such as grief support, mentoring, community initiatives, and peace rallies. Their most widely known event is the Stomp Out Violence March held in Pontiac, MI. The march gives the opportunity for everyone within the community to stand together and march again all acts of violence tearing down their communities.
Looking into the future, the foundation is currently working on opening their very first building, which will serve as a hub for where most of their operations will take place. Foundation representatives are determined to ensure that Identify Your Dream becomes and serves as a beacon of hope for children, while steadily helping to increase mental health awareness.
For more information about Identify Your Dream, click here to visit their website.
As always… Be Honest. Be Humble. Be YOU!
Virtue- Girl With A Purpose is changing Princesses into Queens. This non-profit organization has its focus on youth mentoring as it is their mission to encourage young ladies to become leaders of their community by targeting refinement, self-respect, and unity.
The organization makes it their business to help young women within the Metro Detroit area to make decisions to become great community and business leaders.
“We encourage our girls that anything is achievable despite what the media says as long as they are dedicated to fulfilling the goal,” says Lauren Gillon, Founder of Virtue- Girl with a Purpose.
Lauren Gillon, senior at Ferris State University, created this organization with the hopes of changing the lives of many young women. The Detroit native is currently studying to become a Medical Director with hopes of changing and creating health care policies. With Lauren’s burning passion for making a difference, the organization values success, etiquette, leadership, and sisterhood.
The organization is known for facilitating events such as community health workshops, conferences, sisterly group outings, soup kitchen and food bank outings, and their well-attended Virtue Summer Camp.
The group’s mentors consist of hand-selected women from some of the top universities and colleges throughout Michigan. All mentee’s are young women ranging between the ages of 10 and 14 years-old.
Within the next five, the organization plans to expand their efforts throughout other cities within Michigan promising to guide, mentor, and further society’s newest young Queen’s.
To become a mentor, all interested applicants will just need to submit an application and undergo an interview. For all interested mentee’s, all applicants must range between the ages of 10 and 14 years-old, be Metro Detroit Residents, and submit an application.
For more information about Virtue-Girls With A Purpose, click here to visit their website.
As always… Be Honest. Be Humble. Be YOU!
In today’s society of social media, selfies, big butts, and Brazilian bundles… chances are scrutiny is everywhere: at home, in the workplace, in clubs and organizations, and even when we’re just out and about. From our hairstyle of choice, to our selection of clothes, down to the God-given quality of our skin, we’re constantly under a magnifying glass by people we don’t even know.
We’re judged on how we talk, how we walk, our demeanor, our orientation, the length of our hair, the tone of our skin, the fullness of our lips, the bone in our hips, and even the ridges in our teeth.
Because of these close examinations, it’s no wonder we take special care to make sure our hair is neat and tidy, our clothes match and have decent quality, and that we speak with articulation, but at some point we have to realize that enough is enough. Our life is our own and no one should be able to dictate how we should be our own person. From social media to that nosy co-worker to that hating “friend”there’s always someone trying to dim our light, trying to downplay our highs and broadcast our lows. A promotion, big purchase, new car, closing on a house, acceptance letter, even a new hair color…those people will come around trying to tell you what you “shoulda, coulda, woulda” did and why you made the wrong choice and that they probably could’ve done it too. For some reason people will try to find a way to rain on your parade but it’s you, yourself, and I marching through this thing called life.
This past Sunday’s church service delivered a great message- “Don’t allow others to trick you out of your blessings”. In short, if you like something, if you want something, if you have your heart set on something and you’re in route to get it…don’t allow someone to talk you out of it. Many will try to tell you what they would do if they were you but the simple, yet humorous fact is… they’re not you.
If you want to rock a blue afro then shave it off the next week, do it. Do it because that’s what you want to do. WorldStarHipHop, TheShadeRoom, BallerAlert, MediaTakeOut, Tumblr, and many more have been the home for “embarrassing” memes of people getting called out. Whether it was a video that went viral for an obese woman wearing too small clothing, a man receiving a lace front, or someone inside of McDonalds cursing the cashier…sure it’s funny but why do we care? What does it matter that a man wants to feel confident and extend his locks. Who are we to judge a woman who may not be able to purchase a new wardrobe. It may be funny to watch and listen to but, who knows if the man had to really find the money to buy a meal and why shouldn’t he deserve to have it prepared in the way he desired. This viewpoint may be playing the devils advocate, but moral of the story, we’re all living our own life the way we know how, who knows what the other deals with on a daily basis while we pass such harsh judgement.
If you’ve heard the catchy YouTube hit “She Ratchet”… then you’d recognize the meme included above, and for others…this just may be your mantra…constantly judging people while you’re not such hot stuff yourself. By all means if you want to come outside wearing red weave, green nails, and yellow teeth…go ahead; theoretically speaking (haha!) On the other hand why do we act and live life through others eyes. We might not buy a shirt that we like because someone we know has it or we might not go to the party on Saturday because the outfit we want to wear isn’t “good enough”. If we made decisions based on others opinions throughout life, we’d never find happiness. So many people have harshly judged men in the African American community for pressing or perming their hair. Sure, for some it may seem odd for a man to adjust his natural hair as it’s more accustomed to by women but, if a man chooses to jazz himself up, who is he hurting?
It all starts as fun and games-the teasing and poking fun at the “odd” ones, but what about those that feel conscious about some decisions for fear of what society may say. To some extent we’ve all done it. That second guessing yourself when it comes to a second helping of food, the decision to make a new purchase, or even to wear a bikini.
Who cares about him, her, he she, them, they…
“They don’t want us to eat…”
“They don’t want us to live…”
“They don’t want us to succeed…”
“They don’t want us to win! So, We’re going to win more!”
Domonique Tiera Freeman…there’s so much I could say about this girl. I met Domo in high school, and I’ve always noticed this glamour and confidence about her that I strived to attain for myself. She is the ultimate go-getter. Plus, she’s a highly educated health advocate, which I think is strikingly impressive.
Freeman was born in Franklin, Tennessee and raised in Saginaw, Michigan. She currently holds a Bachelor’s of Science in Health Science from Saginaw Valley State University, and is currently working on her Master’s in Public Health at Georgia State University. Freeman is a health advocate, a contracted health educator, and administrative assistant to the Director of Nursing at East Lake Arbor Nursing Home.
When asked what her life mission is, Freeman stated that it was to, “help individuals realize and live up to their full life potential. This includes improving their well-being and livelihood, helping them to see the importance of seeking and working to be in harmony with themselves, nature and others around them. I frequently talk about nutrition because it impacts all of this.”
Loving the positive vibes from this message. I think that it’s important for black women and all women of color in general to help bring out the potential in others, and help each other live fulfilling lives.
She continued, “I want people to know that in taking these fake, chemical and hormone-filled foods keep your vibrations down and alter your wellbeing. On a more professional note, I plan to help low income populations have access to healthier, safer foods and equal health care by changing and writing policies at the local, state and federal level.”
Not only does Freeman promote healthier lifestyle choices, but she also motivates others to use those choices as a guide for better self-care. She encourages other women of color to, “Love yourself. Get to know yourself, who you truly are. You are more than just a being in a body but you are a spirit with a soul that is here for a purpose. Ingest high nutrient foods that feed your soul and block anything that doesn’t come from the earth, that only helps to alter your state of wellbeing. You lose nothing valuable in letting go of what does not serve you. Living a healthy lifestyle isn’t always easy and it’s even harder to get started after generations of wrong teachings but it starts by incorporating good habits into your life, adding high nutrient foods to your diet, and drinking lots of water!”
This is so, so important. We live in an age where food and cooking has become a chore and something that’s supposed to quick, fast, and cheap. We no longer care about where our food comes from, or what we put into our bodies. We’d rather get the $5 fill-up at KFC instead of preparing natural, hearty foods that are good for your body and overall wellbeing. You really are what you eat…which is why America is so obese. But that’s a whole other conversation. Fundamentally, I think these types of conversations need to be had more often, especially in black neighborhoods. It’s time that we start taking care of our bodies, and Freeman embodies that statement to the fullest. Take notes.
Additionally, Freeman encourages women of color to, “Teach your children the importance of a happy lifestyle. If you truly love your babies, you will work to break the attachments to toxic foods and beings. Learn to unlearn the wrong that has been passed from generation to generation, acknowledge ways that we cause our own sickness, and make changes in order to heal not only yourself but the generations of black beings to come.”
Freeman’s biggest accomplishments are being a CDC Undergraduate Public Health Scholar, which gave her the chance to intern with minority children in the Detroit area, teaching them healthy habits that they will be able to pass on to their peers. Freeman has also taught workshops to adults and children in the Saginaw area on different health topics such as the dangers of sugar and the obesity epidemic in the United States.
How amazing is that?! It’s ALL about the youth. Freeman passing on her message to children at such a young age is how you begin to change the current situation. Teach them young so that they can be the change for the next generation. Bravo.
Freeman says that she started out as an insecure, quiet, shy, awkward black girl. However, she explained that, “Through this journey to living a healthy life, I have learned who I am, what I have to offer the world, and gained a sense of security within myself and love and value for myself that I want all black women to have regardless of whatever they’ve been through in the past, whatever flaws they may have.”
I can relate to this. I still think I’m shy and quiet, and I am definitely awkward (lol); however, I, too, have learned who I am, what I want in life, and I am a 100% unapologetically carefree black woman and proud of it. Finding your true sense of self is when you can fully be confident throughout your life journey.
The soon to be Yogi and Holistic Wellness Practitioner is also a transitioning vegan, and helps people who are interested in transitioning to make that switch.
Freeman has a website coming soon that will consist of weekly health-related blogs, recipes, videos, and more. It will also be a way to book her for workshops, one-on-one training, and grocery store tours. So be on the lookout for DomoniqueTiera.com. You can follow her on Instagram and Twitter @Domoookunn, and check her out on Facebook.
You’re an intelligent black queen, Domo! You encourage me to make healthier lifestyle choices, and you inspire me to be a part of this growing movement of self-care and self-love! Your unique talents, positive energy, and deep understanding of current issues that matter most to you will get you so far! Continue to do great things, pursue your dreams, and excel in your passions. Lastly, thank you for being an inspiration to me and other women of color!
So many artist have been dropping gems in my apple music. I have something new to listen to for getting ready, driving to work, exercising…the list goes on. This is what’s I’ve downloaded in the past few weeks.
First things first….Blond x Frank Ocean: Screw him for making us wait..but lets all agree how worth it “the wait” was. Blond is amazing work. I will be honest, I wasn’t always a fan. When I first heard it, I thought it was ok. However, I gave it another chance while driving home from my internship one day and it definitely grew on me.
I can listen to Self-Control three times before I let the rest of the album finish. That song just resonates so much with my life right now. In addition to Solo, my other jam, after skipping his moms anti-drug PSA.
I’m also listening to Birds in the Trap Sing McKnight x Travis Scott…definitely another banger. Truthfully, I’m no die hard Travis Scott fan, but I definitely appreciate his music for sure. I can bang Outside all day.
I’m still listening to Everybody Looking x Gucci Mane. Even though I’ve heard mixed views on the new gucci music, I for one enjoy every bit of it. I recommend listening to Gucci Please as you get dressed for your day. Start your day with the “Trapper Confidence” and I bet you have a great day.
I cannot forget about Daniel Son; Necklace Don x 2 Chainz–another get ready with me banger. Starting with the first song Get out the bed. That is what I’m talking about 2 Chainz. This is my put my swag on…it’s time to grind and make this money song.
But what are you listening to?
Feminist- /ˈfemənəst/- a person who supports feminism
Feminism- /feməˌnizəm/- the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men
There’s often negative talk about feminists and feminism as if it was the worst thing since World War II. “Stuck up women who feel entitled”…have been some of the nicer words to describe the category of people.
“Because I am a female, I am expected to aspire to marriage, I am expected to make my choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Marriage can be… a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?”
Why should we settle? We should we be content? Are we not allowed to want more than what we’re given? Why should a stay at home mom be all that we aspire? Is it so out of pocket for a woman to become a CEO of a Fortune 500 company or even want to run for president?
“We say to girls, you should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten The Man.”
In 2016 women are still being paid less than that of a man… for the same job position. Not factoring in education or experience as it relates to the job, but simply for the plain fact that the candidate is a woman. If the job place wasn’t bad, what about social life? Women are expected to act like princesses, dress in frills, and speak with eloquence at all times all the while men can roll around in mud, compete in testosterone contests, and be absolutely obnoxious for the sake of just being a “man”. Men can be as careless, nonchalant, and promiscuous as they want, getting fist bumps and ego boosts while doing so. Women on the other hand have to be constantly aware at all times. Aware of their surroundings, aware of their clothing as they don’t reveal too much but just enough to still appeal and attract the male counterpart, friendly and bubbly so they won’t be looked at as a prude, sociable but not too much so that they won’t be called loose… it’s just too much. Who made these rules? Why is this the staple?
“We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about our sons’ girlfriends, but our daughters’ boyfriends? God forbid. But of course when the time is right we expect those girls to bring back the perfect man to be their husband.”
Why are women nearly disowned and shunned because they may have all male friends or even have a list of male partners they’ve been involved with? Why is it the norm for a man to rack up their numbers close to the hundreds? And it’s not about competition, it’s about equality and acceptance. Rather than trying to keep up with the man, why can’t we be equally accepted like the man is… in all realms and aspects.
“A key that can open many locks is a master key but a lock that can be opened by many keys is useless”
There are so many elements, so many underlying factors, which brings us to the age old question…
Why does society accept men in a way they wouldn’t accept women… why can men do things freely, that women would be scorned upon… why can men do things women can’t do… why is there a double standard?
Sexually, socially, career-wise, family-orientation-wise, women are seemingly “stuck” peering up unto the glass ceiling.
How do we make a way for women? What can we do to make a difference? How do you feel about this topic? Are you a feminist? Do you support feminism?
Fall is officially here and I AM excited. Autumn is my favorite season of the year. Starting September 1st, I can feel the change in the air. Most people are hype for summer and are sad when summer is over, but Fall can be just as fun as the summer time. This new season offers opportunities for activities such as long walks and bike rides, or raiding Pumpkin patches and hunted houses.
Inspired by the change in season, I’ve compiled five absolutely fun things you must do in during the fall season.
- Take a friend/pet/significant other with you for a walk: Living in Kalamazoo, we have access to several state trails. During the fall, these can be the prettiest places to be. My favorite trial in Kzoo is Kal-Haven Trail and I highly recommend it. Located on 10th street north of W Main. Sit or walk on what was once use as a transportation route between Kalamazoo and South Haven.
- Visit an Apple Orchard or Pumpkin Patch: These were the best field trips for us as children, assuming that you’re old like me. There is no reason we should be depriving ourselves from this childhood gem–just because we’re adults. Apple Orchards and Pumpkin patches are perfect on those cloudy windy fall days—perfect for warm apple cider.
- Camping: There is nothing like getting a group of friends together and going on a camping trip. Michigan has various camping ground locations. If you want to get fancy, plan the ultimate cabin trip.
- Fall Fairs/Festivals: Small towns may host annual fairs during the fall, for example if you live in the west Michigan area, visiting the ArtPrize Art Festival and Competition in Grand Rapids, MI, would be a great idea. Jf you aren’t anywhere near Michigan check your local listing for what festivals will be in your town for the fall.
- Stay in and Cuddle: This time of year is the best time for sharing body heat. There is nothing wrong with staying in. If you have a person to spend some quality time with, like watching movies under a warm blanket with food, drinks etc., do it! Make that date, you’ll thank yourself for it….Fellas that goes for you too!
The autumn season is so beautiful. I challenge you to take a moment and recognize the constant magic our surroundings perform. Use each of these activities to appreciate the constant evolution that happens arounds you.
If you aren’t from Michigan, comment below what activities are popular during the fall in your town/city?