“A woman who respects her beliefs is always in integrity and men are very attracted to a woman who respects herself. If he doesn’t, do you really want to date that man anyway?” –http://sheismore.com/the-power-of-purity/
Many times us as women think that things will get better after we have given chance after chance after chance. We’re so loving and forgiving, by nature. But the truth is it won’t, because he no longer values or respects you as a woman.Something happened in the friendship where the man felt like he should no longer respect you. Once the respect factor is thrown out the window, the relationship and friendship must end as well.
Don’t keep taking the same person back that treats you like trash simply because you all have known each other for years.
I have never had a problem with being the ride or die in many of my friendships and relationships. But the thing is, it has hurt me in the end, because these men had absolutely zero respect for me. I compromised so much of who I was to try to get these men to realize how much of a great catch I was. I dealt with a man who ended up having two children on me while we were intimate for 5 years . This man also violated me by putting a very defiling picture of me on the internet for the world to see. He disrespected my family and friends, yet I continued to pursue the friendship.
It’s not like I didn’t have a dad who wasn’t present in my life or didn’t come from a good upbringing. I think maybe I really didn’t love myself and wanted so badly to be loved by a man I valued as a friend, but was truly an enemy. I was so afraid to be alone that I took a chance on people who didn’t value me.
I stayed in unhealthy friendships that were toxic and were beginning to determine my worth by how these men were treating me simply because I stopped realizing that I was the prize!
Once you stop realizing that you are the prize, the man will also stop realizing it . If a man doesn’t have to work hard for anything he wants, he then sees no value in possessing it.
Here is a list of 8 reasons why men lose respect for women in the relationship
- Doormat Syndrome
Stop jumping through hula hoops for someone who is not doing the same for you. There should be mutual respect and a mutual understanding. A relationship or friendship is not one sided so don’t be a push over. If you aren’t receiving what you need out of a friendship don’t continue to do favors for this person only so they can continue to take advantage. Never let someone see your weakness.
2.Being Too Available
I had this problem bad! I would always make myself available for guys when they wanted to see me. It was always during a time when it was convenient for them, but inconvenient for me . Learn how to say no not right now, no matter how much you truly want to see this person right then and there. If he values your friendship, he can wait when it’s convenient for the both of you. Remember you are the prize. He is chasing after you because you possess qualities that attracted him to you in the first place. Hold on to that.
3. Overcompensating to Please Him
You do not have to be anything but yourself around some one who is truly interested in you. There is no need to manipulate or to overcompensate who you are. Just be unapologetically you and let that person determine if he can handle all of who you are. It’s ok to be too much for someone. That’s what separates the men from the boys and the women from the girls. Men want to develop a friendship with women who are assertive and confident in who they are. It turns them all the way on.
4. Giving Him Your Heart to Quickly
Sometimes as women when we meet a nice guy, we fall into the trap of fantasizing on what it would be like to be in love with them or date them. Take it slow. Learn what he’s about. Develop a genuine friendship with him. See if you actually really like being around him, flaws and all. Don’t fall head over heals without actually having all your facts. Emotions are fickle and very deceiving. You want to read the book , not skip pages and miss out on some very important chapters. Men run away from women that fall too quickly because it makes it seem as though she is emotionally unstable.
If you lie to him, chances are you’ve already lost his utmost respect. Nothing bothers men or women more than a habitual liar. How can you build a friendship based on lies. There’s absolutely no foundation there. In order to have a honest friendship, you must be truthful with who you are and accept your flaws and mistakes in life. Even if that means you had sex with his best friend, not really feeling him anymore, or decided to lie about your occupation. If you did any of those things, you now have the opportunity to be truthful
6. Not Keeping Secrets
If he can’t trust you to hold his secrets, he can’t trust you to be his friend . He will then isolate you and will no longer want to be around you. He should be able to tell you everything he tells his homeboys and much more.
7. Not Respecting Him As A Man
Women have a tendency to cut deep with our words when we are in pain or have been offended. When a woman hits below the belt she then devalues the man, in which he then reacts to the devaluation by no longer valuing who she is. It’s a deadly toxic cycle. Always choose your words wisely and make sure you are not doing anything to wrongfully offend your friend.
8. Not Respecting The Boundaries You Made For Yourself
Men value women who continue to respect their own boundaries. Meaning if you told dude that you are celibate and don’t have casual sex without a relationship title or before marriage than hold on to that.
While reading 3 Boundaries All Single Women Should Have , I found out that setting boundaries is not about making threats or trying to control the friendship– – ‘it is about communicating clearly what the consequences will be if the other person continues to treat you in an unacceptable manner. It is a consequence of the other person disrespecting your wishes. Setting a boundary shows that you respect yourself’
The friendship will either become stronger or wither away because that was the only thing the guy wanted in the first place. Remember your sex is way too good, don’t f*** for free!